There are several psychological explanations about why people turn to cutting as way to relieve or rather avoid our emotional pain.
Cutting might be just one way of self harming, however my self-harm journey has morphed through scar causing mutilation of my body including knife and razor blade inflicted wounds, piercings, drug and alcohol abuse, overeating, and sexual and emotional addictions; all stemming from psychological or rather emotional self-harm and self-abuse. I know for myself that when I self harm it is because I feel worthless and I don't want to experience these feelings emotionally.
So why have I and still do abuse myself? The answer is simply that I wish to deny all of my suppressed emotional pain and refuse to see and feel its causes. I realise that the causes lie deep within my childhood, abuse in the family which caused me to feel worthless, undesirable, hopeless and faithless. I now see my self-harm as an angry rebellion against the feelings that often surface, which I try to squash deep down inside of myself by revering to self-abusive addictions.
I often see that my "indulgence" in self harm is inexplicably related to a specific event that leads me to it; triggering denied feelings to surface. I use self-harm as way of avoidance of my true feelings.
I hear many people say that they feel that cutting is a way to deal with their feelings. But I feel that most of us simply use physical pain as way of detuning or distracting from our emotional turmoil. In this way I view all addictions, including overeating, sexual and drug addictions and even relationships as a way to detune from our feelings.
Please feel free to share your thoughts on this. What causes you to self-harm, what feelings come up before you decide to make the choice to do it?
Cutting might be just one way of self harming, however my self-harm journey has morphed through scar causing mutilation of my body including knife and razor blade inflicted wounds, piercings, drug and alcohol abuse, overeating, and sexual and emotional addictions; all stemming from psychological or rather emotional self-harm and self-abuse. I know for myself that when I self harm it is because I feel worthless and I don't want to experience these feelings emotionally.
So why have I and still do abuse myself? The answer is simply that I wish to deny all of my suppressed emotional pain and refuse to see and feel its causes. I realise that the causes lie deep within my childhood, abuse in the family which caused me to feel worthless, undesirable, hopeless and faithless. I now see my self-harm as an angry rebellion against the feelings that often surface, which I try to squash deep down inside of myself by revering to self-abusive addictions.
I often see that my "indulgence" in self harm is inexplicably related to a specific event that leads me to it; triggering denied feelings to surface. I use self-harm as way of avoidance of my true feelings.
I hear many people say that they feel that cutting is a way to deal with their feelings. But I feel that most of us simply use physical pain as way of detuning or distracting from our emotional turmoil. In this way I view all addictions, including overeating, sexual and drug addictions and even relationships as a way to detune from our feelings.
Please feel free to share your thoughts on this. What causes you to self-harm, what feelings come up before you decide to make the choice to do it?
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